Remembering – warning, sad

Well, it’s that time of year again.  The end of July.  With it I begin to remember what my family calls the “8 weeks from hell”.  1993 sucked, btw.

That summer, I was 8, turning 9, and my best friend, Cristina, was getting to do something I was convinced I would never be able to do.  She was going to Portugal (with her Dad, who was from there) and going to have the time of her life.  Instead, she was sucked down a pipe at the waterpark she went to, and the park made it look like a kidnapping.

She went missing (died) on July 29, 1993.  They found her body – along with the body of another little boy who had disappeared a couple of days prior, in the drainage systems of the park.

I don’t remember much about the event really, just Mom and Dad coming in to the living room to tell me what had happened.  I knew it was serious, because they sat in front of me – ON THE COFFEE TABLE – and turned off the TV.


Needless to say, I get a bit morbid this time of year.  We lost touch with her family soon after.  Mom said that Mrs. Caldas couldn’t bear it, since we were so close, and had grown up together since we were infants.

It was the early 90’s, so I have this hideous outfit (it was the best thing ever at the time) that we both had a version of, and I still have it.  It’s a one piece, black spandex shorts with lace bottoms, skirty thing, button up front and puffy cap sleeves.  In panels.  Yes, the skirt was in 4 panels, the bodice in 4 panels and the sleeves as well.  The two patterns they used checkerboarded the thing.  Seriously, it’s atrocious.  But I will never get rid of it, because other than a few pictures and some fading memories, it’s all I have of her.

As most young girls, we had a crazy friendship.  We annoyed each other to no end (and I’m sure it was worse for our parents) but she was my best friend.

When July rolls around, with the anniversary of her death and my birthday in another month, I tend to start thinking what would have happened if she hadn’t died.  Would we still be friends?  What would she be doing with her life?

I miss you Cristina, rest in peace.



So apparently Dru is going through a growth spurt (as well as teething – YAY…)

As a result, the child is eating like I’ve starved him for the first 1.5 years of his life.  So far today, he has had a banana, a cup of milk, a blueberry chocolate granola bar and is working on an apple and a peach.  Because he thinks that any round fruit is an apple.  So he’s double fisting his apple and his peach.

But the blueberry chocolate granola bar is the funniest.  Kris got it into his head last night to make granola bars out of what we had in the pantry, which boiled down to some blueberry granola and chocolate chips.  He mixed them up and we cut them this morning.  They’re super yummy.  But the chocolate in them, as well as the honey as binder, is super messy (when eaten by hot little messes like 1.5 year olds).

So now Dru is sitting in his hair chair and munching on his apple and peach, covered in granola.

No words can describe the carnage, so here’s a picture to give an idea.  At least he liked them.  Go Kris!

The carnage

And now he’s pointing to the peach and calling it a “bapple” – his word for apple.  Everytime I correct him, he repeats “bapple” and looks at me like I’m an idiot.  Ah well.

Keeping Secrets 2.0

And I think I have a new best friend.  This article quotes Rik Ferguson ”

a security consultant at Trend Micro, said that the AntiSec banner is being used as a flag of convenience for all sorts of mischief by people who are seemingly unfamiliar with the origin of the term. He writes:

‘In the ultimate irony, the original AntiSec manifesto from back in 2001 was all about the irresponsibility of full disclosure. That same manifesto was re-posted when Imageshack was compromised eight years later. The manifesto criticised the ‘security industry’ for using full-disclosure to develop ‘scare tactics’ to convince people into by security. Are you listening, Operation AntiSec?

Find the flaws, publish your successes if you must, but have the decency to spare the innocent victims of your activities. Obscure personal data before you publish; otherwise you are considerably worse than those you are attempting to shame.'”


Apparently Anonymous is at it again.  But this time they’ve hacked a defense contractor and posted 90,000 email and password hashes of military service members.  Because that’s totally going to help whatever cause they purport to be serving – annoying service members with spam.  That’s a good plan.

I wonder if they realize that this type of shit is just going to piss off the general public even more.

What dipshits.





for straws…

That’s what a Michigan inmate is currently doing.

Apparently Kyle Richards (currently in prison after pleading guilty to bank robbery charges) is suing Governor Rick Snyder and the state of Michigan over the ban that his prison has placed on something he deems vital to his health – both mental and physical.

What is this thing you ask?  Sunlight?  Food?


Yep.  Porn.  Apparently, the ban on porn at the prison has “been used as a method of ‘psychological warfare’ against prisoners, in order to both destroy the morale of inmates and break the spirit of individuals.”  It’s a denial of his constitutional rights!

Now, it’s been a while since I took my ConLaw class in college, but I’m pretty sure that Professor Maveety never covered the constitutional right to porn.  And it was a 400-level class, so I’m pretty sure that would have been covered.  You know what, I even did a search in my book on Supreme Court decisions (it has all of them through the 2005 session) and nowhere in it does the Supreme Court address a right to porn.  NOWHERE.

So, in all, they’ve denied him the ability to have porn…OH NO NOT THAT!  How dare they punish someone in prison?!  Poor little whiner can’t have his porn.  Well, maybe he shouldn’t have been out robbing banks!  Prison is not supposed to be a free apartment complex with all the perks of living on the outside.  IT’S PRISON.  IT’S PUNISHMENT.

He’d better be glad I’m not in charge of running the prisons.  They get too many privileges as it is.  There is no way in hell they should get access to TV programs – except maybe the news and weather.  And the food (under my control) would be highly nutritious paste.  Why give them expensive and good tasting shit – let them get their nutritive value in the most cost effective way possible.

He doesn’t get porn in jail – WAH.  I’m pretty sure that he’s missing the point here.  His 21-year-old behind needs to be less entitled and more deprived.  And he’s in the perfect place for that kind of education – prison, land of deprivation (or at least it should be).


And don’t even get me started on what about “my generation” pisses me off…


Here’s the story (it’s all over the place if you want to search for it somewhere else)

As a total side note, I think this is probably the first (and hopefully only) time I’ve ever used “porn in prison” as a post tag…






Those of you who know me know that I can get pretty heated when it comes to certain topics – well, here’s one of them.

A friend recently brought an article to my attention that has me seeing red.  Apparently, a 15-year-old girl in Mississippi has already been tried and convicted of “depraved-heart murder” under a 130-year-old statute.  She was doing cocaine during her pregnancy and the child was stillborn.

Now, I’m not defending what she did – by no means.  The girl was wrong.  She should be charged with all the drug charges they can throw at her.  But charging her with some form of homicide?!  HELL NO.  That leads to a very scary slippery slope.  If all of a sudden we can start attacking people for losing a pregnancy, we’re in big trouble.  What about a woman who stays with an abusive significant other and loses a baby?  Are we going to blame her for not being able to get out of the relationship?  Or someone who chooses to continue a treatment that will keep them healthy (psychiatric treatment, cancer treatment, etc) but that is known to terminate or risk a pregnancy?!

This is such a scary concept that my mind is boggled.  Not only is this prosecutor – who apparently has a track record of being a raging douchewad – opening the floodgates of recriminations, he’s now attacking women who are in one of the worst places imaginable.  Many women (and their spouses) who lose a pregnancy (for whatever reason) are completely devastated by the loss.  And now we’re going to compound that by making them fear prosecution?  How many of them are already beating themselves up over what they think they could have done to prevent this – right or wrong, it goes through one’s mind – and now this prosecutor wants to tell them “Yes, you should have done something more, and since you didn’t GO TO JAIL!”

What a dick.

Well, the MS Supreme Court has already heard arguments, including the very compelling one from the defense attorney that

“If it’s not a crime for a mother to intentionally end her pregnancy, how can it be a crime for her to do it unintentionally, whether by taking drugs or smoking or whatever it is,” said Robert McDuff, a civil rights lawyer who argued the case on behalf of Gibbs. “I hope it’s not a trend that’s going to catch on. To charge a woman with murder because of something she did during pregnancy is really unprecedented and quite extreme.”

You know what, I can’t agree more with Mr. McDuff.  I hope they win.  Now we’re just waiting on the decision from the MS Supreme Court.  I hope they make the right one.  And I hope that the prosecutor, one Forrest Allgood, is brought down a level and that his bosses start looking at what the hell he’s doing with his professional discretion.

Here’s the article, which also includes some commentary on how this is a side-swiping attack on Roe v Wade.

Shutting Down

Oh Minnesota…

Well, according to news reports, MN government has shut down for the second time in six years.  All because they failed to meet a budget agreement.

Seriously?  This is ridiculous.  We almost had the same issue with the federal government a while back.  Do the people making these laws have a fundamental mental deficiency?  These budget deadlines aren’t things that are surprises!  And they have some real widespread consequences.

Yet again, the Democrats and Republicans are pointing fingers at the other side, blaming them for giving up too easily.  But what about compromise?  According to what I read, the Democrat-Farmer-Labor Party (the Governor included) want – in general – to raise taxes on the wealthiest 1.9% and cut spending.

The Republicans are stating that they met with and agreed to a some of the funding requests (couldn’t find out which ones) and are criticizing the Governor for wanting to stick to “his rigid, tax-and-spend ideology, rather than prioritize the best interests of Minnesotans as we move into the holiday weekend.”

In response, the Democrat group is blaming the Republicans for the shutdown saying that the Republicans are in favor of “devastating cuts to education, health care, public safety, and other vital services”

So instead of sucking it up, and coming to an agreement that will benefit the citizens, the politicians are AGAIN playing the blame game.  Guess what politicians – the people who are getting screwed over don’t care which party is to blame.  They know that ALL OF YOU are to blame, together.  So it’s time to come together and get that shit taken care of!

I’d like to see raw numbers of how many of the MN Republicans are included in the group that the Dems want to raise taxes on.  Because I have no doubt that this resistance is not for the benefit of the majority of constituents, but instead for the benefit of their own bottom lines.

Guess what, if you’re included in the top 1.9% of wealth in any state, you can afford to have a bit more in taxes come out.  It’s just math.

As for the Dems, I’m sure that the Republicans aren’t trying to basically cripple all public services in the state – that’s just stupid.

So, here’s what I have to say to both parties.  I think you should all not be paid, until the budget is approved and the other state employees are squared away.  If this happens, I can guarantee there will be a new budget ASAP.